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hate when couples say ‘we’re pregnant!!!’ both of you? prove it
his and hers matching pregancies
THIS ISNT ABT ‘cis’ mpreg ITS ABT TRANS MEN BE QUIET
My friend who has a gyno dad tells the best story about a couple (cis woman-trans man) who both tried in vitro fertilization and the guy got pregnant, and they were talking about it in the lobby when a cishet couple started getting weird abt it and said sth about it being “unnatural”. Her dad heard and was like, “UNNATURAL? EVERYTHING WE DO HERE IS UNNATURAL, God didn’t wanna give you guys a kid as much as he didn’t want to give one to this couple! And you all came to me for the same thing! WE ONLY DO UNNATURAL!!! IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT YOU CAN LEAVE!” and to this day I’ve never respected a doctor more.
Y'all see what I mean when I say I get crap for it?
No! It is not a fetish! It’s this neat term called gender nonconforming. Y'see I’m a female, I was born as a female, but my ideal self would have a dick and no tits. I’ve had plenty of people tell me I’m confused, that I’m just trans, but they’re all wrong. I tried that, went through that gender exploration and it just wasn’t me, I’m not a guy.
It’s not a fetish to present the way I am, who I am. You wouldn’t call a nonbinary person fetishistic for wearing a binder right? I have a packer, a binder, an stp, these are things that aren’t strictly for trans folk and people need to start realizing that.
I always hear gender (and the way you present) is a spectrum but people really treat it as if there’s only three viable options. Cis, nb, and trans, while dressing accordingly to each. Stray from the image people have in their mind and suddenly your transphobic, your fetishizing other people for being who you are.
Basically, just fucking let people choose their own gender and present how they want. You’re a cis dude who wants tits? A vagina? Or go on E? Fucking go for it. You’re a cis girl who wants a dick? Doesn’t want breasts? Maybe you even want to go on T? More power to you.
Fuck the people who say you can’t be your ideal self. Fuck the people who say your body represents your gender. After all you wouldn’t say that to a trans person right? So why would you say it about anyone else’s gender?
If I gotta fight a million anons, make a million posts for people to understand they don’t have to stick to the three options society has made popular than I will.
If anyone wants to be shitty about this you can go through me first.
I hate that people call it transphobic to align this way, because, truthfully? What I see as transphobic is the insinuation that a flat chest and/or a penis is antithetical to femininity or womanhood. If you can’t accept cis women that feel more comfortable with a flat chest, or having a penis, or whatever other instance of gender nonconformity you’re gonna be shitty about, then not only is that real fucked up, but you’re also a hair’s breath from transmisogyny.
OP is absolutely right. People should be allowed to do whatever they want with their own bodies if it isn’t harming anyone. That’s just what bodily autonomy *is*.
Transphobia is an interesting term, because one of the core principals it revolves around is the destruction of bodily autonomy. So if you don’t believe people like OP deserve that right to bodily autonomy, you’re essentially stating that you only care about the fundamental bigotry that transphobia runs on if it has the “trans” prefix attached to it.
Leave people like OP alone.
When are we gonna get to the point where we stop looking for an “acceptable” queer target to bully? Cause this happened with bi people, then trans people, then pan people, then ace people, then aro people, then poly people, so on, so forth, and im sick of it.
I’m a non-op binary transgender man. I have a vagina! Given all the money in the world, I would still have a vagina. I’m a binary man who likes having a vagina. It’s not a fetish, it’s just a male vagina. Sometimes men have vaginas. Sometimes men *want* to have vaginas, and they are still men. Sometimes women *want* to have a penis, and they are still women. People should have access to whatever gender-affirming care that damn well pleases them.
This might be a hot take but also if it was a fetish, I don’t think that should matter in the slightest. It’s not like having a fetish is a big boogeyman that makes someone wrong. You can be trans or cis or kinky or vanilla or whatever about gender and it doesn’t matter.
for real once you realize that you can actually wear whatever you want and call yourself whatever name and pronouns you want and have whatever interests you want and be whatever gender you want your life gets so much better and more fun
I’m sure this will hit the news soon but just in case it’s not out yet — the Governor of Maryland just signed an executive order tonight declaring Maryland a sanctuary state for trans people seeking gender-affirming care, and for all people who provide such care or help trans people access such care. This executive order includes an explicit refusal to cooperate with law enforcement/prosecutors in any other state where accessing, providing, or helping people access such care is now or will soon be criminalized.
Yes it is absolutely a privilege to be able to travel or to think about moving but if someone can access the resources to move or visit to get what they need to survive and be less likely to be actively targeted for LITERAL EUGENICS AND GENOCIDE, then they should and we should support them.
Please spread the word.
Minnesota is also a sanctuary state, welcome trans people!
Hey. Large chest people that want it to be smaller and flatter. I have a tip for you.
I am a trans man. I have an h cup chest. That is not a typo, not a brag, and not an invitation to sexually harass me. This means I have about 4 pounds of breast. This means that binders do not work for me. There’s not enough structure in the compression to keep that much weight in place.
I wore a sports bra under my binder, for a time- it kept things in place, and the binder flattened. This isn’t really safe and I recommend against it. It also never actually got me looking masc- I tended to look like I had between a c or b cup. TransTape I discarded too- it’s just not sturdy enough.
Enter Enell. Specifically, the Enell Sport High Impact Bra.
I want you to look at the construction of that sports bra. It clasps in the front. This flattens the chest. And since it’s a sports bra designed for busty people, it LOCKS everything in place. When I wear my Enell sports bra, I do not bounce. It also gets me looking like I have an a cup at worst- and at best, when I layer, I actually look masc.
Admittedly, they’re not cheap. That one’s 66$. But I’ve tried even custom binders, and they don’t work as well as Enell. I was actually contemplating a custom built corset before I found Enell. Enell is also much, much safer than layering compression, since it is being used as intended (sort of). As a bonus, you can actually exercise in it- it’s a sports bra!
I will note that they use their own sizing system, so you will have to measure yourself.
Happy binding!
I’d also like to note that you can ask for this even if you’re closeted and scared without raising a flag. Just say you want to take up running, or if you’re already sporty, that it’ll help with that. It’s technically not a lie- it’s a great sports bra.
hell if you’re busty you don’t even need to be getting active, you can just say that you’re having back pain and want to try something new to keep them in place.
hate it when I call myself a girl and then someone goes “you’re not a girl you’re nonbinary/agender” and it’s like. I am whatever I say I am. freak. I am a girl I am a little guy I am the man of the owl. I am nothing. I am everything. do not presume to know me in anyway I do not know myself
